Thursday, January 31, 2008

A Heart Like the Grinch

Today is a momentous day. Why? Today is the day Vander uttered two very important syllables: "a- tee." That's right, HE SAID MY NAME!!! I hate to sound so self-involved, but this made my day. The "k" sound will come eventually, but for now, I will be "atie" and proud of it. Poor Uncle Trent will probably have to wait months before he hears his own difficult-to-pronounce-for-babies-and-non-English-speakers name. That little boy has wiggled his way into my heart and will forever have a special place.

There are three other children in this world who have climbed into my heart and set up house. However, unlike Vander, these children will remain in my heart forever as just that, children. Lord willing, I will get to see Vander grow into a man but these other precious, young ones will remain frozen in time as innocent, vulnerable, treasured children. Their faces are burned into my memory and their lives have forever changed my own. Who are these three cherished children? Honestly, I only remember the name of one. I met the first of the three in India. My team had just finished playing the longest game of basketball in the world (the clock strangly kept changing if we were winning) and I had shared my testimony at half time with the crowd. It was at this moment, as I was dripping with sweat, physically exhausted but running on adrenaline, that I met the first boy who rocked my world. About 8 or 9, he ran up to me after the game and introduced himself and said, "I like what you said about Jesus." "Did you? Do you believe what I said is true?" He responded with, "Well of course I believe." Me: "Do you believe there are other gods as well as Jesus?" His reply: "Of course there are." I internally sighed, "Oh the dilemma of sharing Jesus with Hindus. They will readily accept Jesus in their myriads of gods but won't accept him as the ONLY way," I thought. Before I could respond to this sweet, smiling boy, my group, already packed up in the van, called to me saying we MUST leave right away. (apparently our Hindu driver was terrified by the Muslim men who had been conversing with our leader) There was nothing I could do, nothing more I could say to this boy and my heart broke. As I tore myself away from him, he ran after me waving and grinning and then he yelled words that I can't push out of my consciousness no matter how hard I try: "I'll see you in heaven in Katie!" Ever since that moment, I have been grappling with his words. Will I? Will I see you in heaven one day? I have wrestled with God numerous times over this issue and the only conclusion I have reached is God is good, God is just, God is merciful, God is trust-worthy, God is loving. When I lay awake at night thinking about that boy in India, I pray for him and I cling to those truths.

I met the next of the three life-changing children in a remote, coastal town on a primitive island in the Philippines. She was the leader of a gang of mischievous little ones, running about in dirty, torn clothes, laughing at the tall Americans. I can't remember how we initiated our friendship but throughout the basketball game, I played follow the leader, did cartwheels, made silly faces, and ran from the group as they threw worms at me. I don't remember her name but I can't forget her dimples or her joy-filled spirit. In the picture she is the one wearing the yellow shorts. In meeting and playing with this rambunctious little girl, I understood a tiny bit more about God's love and His hugeness. Here was a girl living in a town that few people will ever hear of and somehow I felt a tiny bit of how God loves her and was overwhelmed by it. She may be forgotten and invisible in the world's eyes, but she is dearly loved by her Creator and it was in meeting in her that I realized God is so much bigger than I can ever imagine.

Wait a minute, I thought these "tales" were supposed to be from Mozambique? You're right, you're right. Ok. And for the record, I'm not trying to boast about all the places I've been to- but no matter the country, there are children filled with joy who God loves so much and whom He uses to teach me. (I just taught my English class when to use "whom" but now I can't remember the rules- anyone want to call me out on my usage?) The third boy who will remain in my heart, long after I leave Mozambique is Andre. I've talked about him before; he's the boy from Shiparango (the village where I attend church) who only has one hand.

I didn't know it was possible to care so much about a boy I hardly know- maybe I'm like the Grinch and my heart is stretching while I'm here in Africa. (not that I was particularly green or grouchy or a hater of Christmas- but you know what I mean) Andre has been gone the past two months since he and a few others go into the city to go to school during the year but now since it is summer, he is back in the village making me laugh and smile so much my cheeks hurt. This past week when I went to Shiparango, the kids were fighting for who got to hold my hand as we walked to the car. How do you hold hands with someone who doesn't have any fingers? I thought Andre might be self-conscious about this but he wasn't- he thrust his little nub into my giant man-hand and I held onto his nub as he smiled away at me and I fought back tears. This boy is simply amazing and a true testament to the joy that God gives despite circumstances here on earth. Andre has every reason in the world to be bitter and resentful, but there is not a hint of such negativity in him. He is all joy, all laughs and smiles, always with a baby on his hip, a glimmer in his eye and a joke on his lips. I love this little boy more than I thought possible.Andre and several of the other children who have been attending school in the city, have learned to count to ten in English and were so proud to show off their skills. It cracks me up to hear him make up English words. When we got past the number 10 and he tried to keep counting although he didn't know the words and I couldn't suppress my laughter. I taught the kids another game that requires few instructions: thumb wars; a classic game advantageous for those of us with huge thumbs. (smart thinking Katie: introduce them to a game requiring fingers. Oops. Don't worry- Andre is a champ with his left hand) I mentioned my gianormous man-hands and I hate to brag, but I dominated those kids! They all laughed hysterically when I pinned their thumb down with my own and then yelled, "Winner!" You may think I should let them win, but if you think that way, you do not understand the heart of a true competitor: we do not let anyone beat us no matter the circumstances.The above picture cracks me up because there is so much randomness going on. We were supposed to be showing off our "thumbs." The little girl next to me is my little side-kick who insists on always being held and can't quite figure out how to stick her thumb up. Her mother, trying to show her how, is always offering for me to keep her permanently. She's joking- I hope. Bernardo, Andre's older brother, is right next to me staring at my giant thumbs wondering how it is possible for a girl to have such large fingers. The preggo woman next to him is one of my favorites. We can't communicate but I have a feeling we will be friends in heaven. No clue what she's looking at- reminds me of my friend Jenny who is never looking during a picture. One of the men is apparently trying to cheer up the toddler Vladimir with the Word of God- interesting tactic but it does not appear to be working. Notice the rolling, grassy hills in the background? No mystery why I love being in this village so much.

Wh
en Madalena and I first arrived in Shiparango this past week, she informed me that things looked differently in the village. It had rained a lot while I was in America and the village has transformed during these summer months from a dry, dreary and desolate land into a beautiful, lush, green area. The other big change is that the members of the church had built a temporary shelter to meet under. To protect themselves from the frequent rains and beating sun, they put up poles and a tarp to meet under until a permanent hut is built. I now have a new understanding of "church building." The members have been taking an offering since the church started last February and even though all the members live below what we would consider the poverty line, they always give an offering. They've proven that a church is not a building but at the same time have always hoped for enough funds to build a hut to meet in instead of under the tree. After a year of saving, they raised enough to buy a few bushels of reeds for the future hut. This past Sunday an "elder" in the church (literally, a very very old man) spoke about the future church building and asked everyone to give an additional 5 mets. Only a few people could afford to give this additional offering of what equates to about a quarter. In the picture below, several members of the congregation are sitting in front of the future walls of our church. If you are interested in helping this congregation fund the building of their church, please e-mail me. I will find out the exact costs but Madalena estimates that the hut will cost roughly $ 300 to build. Different type of budget than we're used to in America huh?Meeting with these amazing Christians has changed my view of what a "church" is. This church has no walls, no benches or chairs, no choir, no instruments, no official pastor and yet they are a church. They are the body. They remind me of the early Church. They are a family and they care for each other. After the service this past week, we went to a hut to pray for a family who had recently lost a baby to disease and were in mourning. God knew exactly what had happened and what encouragement they would need and had prepared Madalena by having her read the book of Job the day before. None of the congregation had heard the story of Job so Madalena told the entire story to the mourning family while the whole church listened in. For a people who endure great suffering in this life, they could all relate with Job and were encouraged by his story.

When I look around Maputo and see poverty, sorrow, and suffering, I often find myself asking, "Why God? Why do you allow it?" Then I am reminded of Job's story and how he too doubted God's fairness. I love reading God's response in chapters 38-41 basically saying, "Look who I am. Who are you to question me?" and then I love reading Job's response in chapter 42:

Then Job replied to the Lord: "
I know that you can do all things; no plan of yours can be thwarted. You asked, 'Who is this that obscures my counsel without my knowledge?'

Surely I spoke of things I did not understand, things too wonderful for me to know. You said, ' Listen now, and I will speak; I will question you, and you shall answer me.' My ears had heard of you but now my eyes have seen you. Therefore I despise myself and repent in dust and ashes.' "

I am convicted by Job's response when I am tempted to doubt God and His goodness when I see suffering; when I think of that little boy in India, or the little girl in the Philippines, or of Andre. I do not understand everything about my God but I know that He is good, that he loves those children more than I do, and that I will daily try to surrender my life and my will to Him because He is worthy.

Saturday, January 26, 2008

Advice from Shirly Temple- I mean Annie

Others warned me it would it happen, but I didn't believe them. They said it would be hard to come back to Africa after a short stint at home but I disregarded their well-intentioned words because I love my life in Mozambique and how could 2 weeks at home change that? Right? Wrong. "Naive Katie" strikes again. I don't know what I would have done differently if I had taken their words to heart but I do know I wouldn't have been nearly as shocked by how down I have been.

Don't get me wrong, I know I am where God wants me to be and that thrills me but when I was pondering the "highs and lows" of the past 2 weeks, the lows seemed to loom much higher than the "highs." I've begun too many e-mails with "sorry to be a Debbie Downer but..." When asked how my day was going I've responded with, "I've had better," "It's pretty sucky" and a big thumbs down accompanied by the farting sound for our non-English speaking empragada which I figure is the universal sign for, "not great." (yes, the sound effect is completely necessary to convey the message) Wearing my teaching mask during the day, I easily fooled my kids and even myself some days that I was doing wonderfully but once I walked out the bright blue gates of CAM, the mask fell off and I shed some giant, salty tears on my walk home. (The homeless beggars and dumpster-divers even gave me looks of pity and no Mom, I was not about to start) So please allow me to be completely honest and confess that the last 2 weeks haven't been the greatest of my life. But God has been right by my side, carrying me when necessary, so regardless of my many "lows" please know that I am still rejoicing in Him and am so thankful for where He has brought me. That being said, here are my lows and highs of the past 2 "transition back to life in Africa" weeks.

Low- After almost 3 weeks at home, I had quickly grown accustomed to hanging out with my family every day and I didn't realize until I was back in Maputo how much I would miss these sweet moments. I've never felt such an ache and longing to be home with them; I mean, they can be downright obnoxious at times and I recall my dad even saying to me at one point, "bet you're glad you're heading back to Maputo huh?" and I was! But now, now I think I may have even made myself nauseous with homesickness (perhaps it was just the meat pie but I'll explain that fiasco later). I wanted to be with Heidi and Vander so badly I physically hurt. I wanted to be at all the basketball games screaming at the refs and eating the food I love and playing the celebrity game and Dance Dance. The tears flowed freely on my walks home as I threw myself numerous pity parties. (why are these called parties by the way? They are no fun and there is no cake involved)
God often comforts me through songs and I always seem to have a "theme song" for different periods in my life. Jars of Clay won the coveted spot for "Katie Hardeman's theme song of the week" with their rendition of "I Need Thee Every Hour." It's not exactly an "upper."


I need Thee every hour, most gracious Lord
No tender voice like Thine can peace afford

I need Thee every hour, stay Thou nearby
Temptations lose their power (temptation to throw pity parties)
When Thou art nigh (what on earth does "nigh" mean? I thought they were saying "near.")

I need thee, oh, I need thee, every hour I need Thee
I need thee, I need thee, I need Thee every hour

I need Thee every hour in joy or pain
Come quickly and abide or life is in vain
I need Thee, oh, I need Thee, every hour I need Thee
I need Thee, I need Thee, I need Thee every hour
I need Thee, I need Thee, I need Thee every hour

Oh, bless me now, my Savior, I come to Thee
Oh, bless me now, my Savior, I come to Thee
I need Thee every hour, teach me Thy will
And Thy rich promises in me fulfill

I need Thee, oh, I need Thee
Oh I need Thee every hour
I need Thee, I need Thee, I need Thee every hour
I need Thee, I need Thee, I need Thee every hour

Oh, bless me now, my Savior, I come to Thee

HIGH- The biggest high of late is that because of the rough times, I have been drawn tighter into Christ's arms and am forced to turn to Him, acknowledge His presence and lean on Him. I've been forced to recognize my deep need for God and being ever-faithful as usual, He met me and blessed me with His sweet presence. I confess that before I turned to him, I turned to comfort food but there's not an abundance of desserts that I love here so after about a pound of chocolate, I went to Jesus. How pathetic that I turn to chocolate first?!

LOW- In the midst of feeling homesick, I was plagued by an actual sickness- my first since being in Africa. On Friday evening I felt terribly nauseated, my head was pounding (to the point where I actually took Advil which is a big deal for me since I hate taking medicine. I think this started when I was little and couldn't swallow pills so my mom chopped up the pill and put it in apple sauce but I could still taste the nastiness), I felt like a feeble old woman barely able to stand, was up every half hour on the toilet and took a shower at 5 am to try to cool down. Curious as to what was happening to my body, I did a little research on malaria symptoms since I couldn't fall back asleep and recalled getting bit by those blood-sucking demons more than usual that week. As I read the symptoms, I started crying and praying "Please Lord, don't let this be Malaria!"

Usually I try to tough out a sickness- see how long I can go before admitting I'm sick but when I read that some cases led to death, I found Madalena and asked her to take me to get tested. I opened both gates so Madalena could pull out the car and Gizmo decided to make my day more interesting and although he has never done this
before, he bolted out the gate and around the block. At my weakest point I was suddenly required to sprint after a stubborn, horse-of-a-dog. Gizmo was heading straight for a major street with lots of traffic and I was certain I was about to see him killed in front of my eyes so I was screaming like a madwoman, "STOP HIM!!! PLEASE STOP THAT DOG!!! PLEASE HELP!! HELP!!" Problem # 1- I was yelling in English. Problem # 2- Mozambicans are terrified of all dogs. They were leaping from his path, not into it and giving me odd looks as I ran my fastest, screaming all the while. God knew I could not handle the death of Gizmo at the point and Gizmo suddenly stopped to sniff something which gave me enough time to grab his neck. Now the problem of getting home...He refused to take a step and had on no collar. I caught my breath, pulled my hair back, and picked him up. Feeling as feeble as Bob Barker, I thought I might collapse if I picked up his whole body so I straddled him and picked up his upper body and made him take steps with his back two legs. (see picture) We'd awkwardly walk a few yards then I would set him down and catch my breath. The Mozambicans stopped, pointed, gawked and laughed. Finally a very sympathetic guard brought me the collar and leash of their dog which I later returned.

Having safely retrieved the naughty horse, we proceeded to the clinic and I had blood drawn. While waiting for the results we saw a fridge full of small dishes labeled
"sheep blood" and "chocolate blood." I almost hurled. The test came back negative and by the time I awoke the next morning, I was feeling back to normal. Apparently many people endure these 24 hour bugs as their stomach readjusts but I am also very suspicious of a funny-tasting King Pie that I ate on Friday. Never again. My siblings said I deserved to get sick since I ate a nasty meat pie but I still think the idea is great- I just got a bad one. In the picture I am proudly displaying where I gave blood- I'm not showing off the "grandma arm flab"- that's just an added bonus.

HIGH-
While home, I took for granted the fact that if I needed the Internet, it would be there waiting for me, no hassles. The first day back here I quickly remembered how frustrating it can be when I can't get a connection and thus can't communicate with the outside world. I realize this is sounding like a low so far but the good news is that there were a couple of days where I wasn't disconnected once! This is a huge deal for me. One night particular I really needed to talk to Heidi and actually prayed that God would intervene in the Internet world and somehow secure our connection so we could talk. I'll never know if it was His hand or not but I was able to talk to her via Skype and stayed connected and was so thankful for it. With a connection that doesn't cut out every 60 seconds, I was even able to download Grey's and The Hills and get a small taste of home. I also thoroughly enjoyed a string of e-mails that Iron Well has been sending. For the forgetful, Iron Well is my accountability group from Westmont and one of the girls was being set up on a blind date with a celebrity! Perhaps it's pathetic that checking my e-mail was a "high" but these girls are so hilarious and we had such a fun topic to talk about. The picture is of us at our annual get-together- this year in Arizona. Yes, I photo-shopped myself in the picture and no, you cannot start calling me Michael Scott. (reference to the show The Office for any confused aunts)

LOW- An old friend made a return visit during these 2 weeks: loneliness. I've always found a visit from loneliness to be bittersweet. It's not a pleasant feeling. It actually really sucks and does a number on my self-esteem but the "sweet" part is that it points me straight to Jesus. Africa is not to blame for my bout of loneliness. There were times at Westmont when I was surrounded by amazing friends when I felt very alone. I think it points to the fact that only my Savior completely understands everything about me. I am reminded of this fact every time I feel lonely and fall more in love with Him because of it.

HIGH- I honestly believe Jesus uses dogs to comfort me. They are intuitive as heck and it seems whenever I am sad or lonely, a dog shows up. (I am in no way calling Jesus a dog- I'm just suggesting that He uses dogs as tangible comfort) At school I was sitting outside during my prep period, fighting back tears when our guard dog, Mocha, started rubbing her dirty self against my leg and looking at me with her giant eyes as if to say, "cheer up! Things could be worse. You could be a dirty dog who only gets baths when it rains." Then there's Gizmo of course who always cheers me up and is a wonderful running companion.
Lastly, Gizmo's pups have been weaned and two of them are staying out our house! I confess that when they were real little, I didn't think they were that cute (I never said this because anyone who thinks puppies aren't cute seems a little cold-hearted but they looked like furry, wrinkled rats) but now I think they are the cutest pups ever.
It is so fun to be greeted by two adorable Rhodesian Ridgebacks and they love to play and snuggle. (Is anyone else picturing freshly-laundered towels ?) My neighbor Henrik, Gizmo's owner, came over to tell me the puppies were at his house and I could come see them any time but he said, "You can come over and snuggle any time." I started laughing and I saw him blush for the first time. I love when I make other people awkward!















LOW-
My Africa BFF didn't return:( Big low. Lindsay decided to stay in Texas and I wasn't surprised by this but it has changed things. She used to walk home with me on Tuesdays and we'd run, go to Bible study and then she'd stay over night and we'd watch the Grey's from the week before. Tuesdays are not the same. I miss having her at school to laugh with and vent to and plot how to sneak onto the Librarian's computer. Linds will be a life-long friend but Africa is not the same without her. (not trying to make you feel guilty Lindsay! I'll see you this summer!)

HIGH- He gives and takes away right? Well although Lindsay could never be replaced, the new second grade teacher is pretty fun too. The night I began to feel sick was the night I met the Rebecca at her birthday dinner which was super awkward at first since we had never met. She was raised in Maputo and is a graduate from CAM and is absolutely hilarious. She's very different from me in many ways- she dresses much cuter than I ever have to school (and just in general) but we share a love of food and the sun:) Her parents still live here and she knows all about the town and has given me some great food recommendations. This past weekend we went to the pool called "The Oasis" where I take the younger students for swimming. Rebecca, her mom and myself spent the afternoon swimming and lounging in the sun and the homesickness finally began to subside. My favorite moment was when her mom swam towards us and said, "Do I have a stream of red following me?" My face couldn't conceal the shock I felt and when seeing my dropped-jaw Karen said, "What? I dyed my hair red last night." You can imagine what I thought she was asking and we had a good laugh about it.

LOW- I pulled a "Heidi" and clogged the one toilet at the school for all the teachers.

HIGH- I went to dinner at the Lechner's. I love this family! Their oldest boy, Coleson, is in 2 of my classes and daily makes me laugh. One day last week he was eating a sandwich during break and said mostly to himself, "I have two great loves in life; God and mayonaisse." Will "the ham" is in 5th grade so I get to teach him swimming and Luke and Abby are in 2nd grade and kindergarden respectively and are both so sweet. Angie and Charlie, the parents, are such genuine, kind, and fun people to be around. I told them how I was struggling to readjust and they were so encouraging and assured me it was a "hump" I was going over and not a permanent up-hill climb. I love hanging out with their whole family and was super excited when they lent me 8 taped episodes of Amazing Race. Abby went through my purse and found my camera and said, "Would you like to take a picture of me to send to your family?" Sure Abby, I'd love to.

LOW- Some of my kids are bullies. They've been picking on poor Silvio who moved from Nigeria and doesn't have the greatest social skills. (in the picture below he is throwing the peace sign) Someone stole his history book and the whole class witnessed "scary Miss Katie" as I lectured them sternly and his book magically appeared on his desk the next day. Another sad thing about my junior high class is that Fredy has withdrawn from the school. His mom decided to take him out since he didn't pass any classes and although he gave me the hardest time, I loved the challenge and miss his witty, although sometimes, inapproriate comments.

HIGH- Kids will always crack me up. Mafat is one of my favorites at the school. He's in 2nd grade and has a bit of a studder because he's so excited to talk. In the above picture he is proudly showing off his fingers covered in glue.

LOW- My favorite icecream place is either closed or being remodeled. Very sad news.
HIGH- I've been getting some quality time in hanging out in our hammock in the front yard. Along with a giant trampoline, I've always wanted a hammock and love taking naps and reading in it. I've started reading The Pillars of the Earth by Ken Follett and am LOVING it! Thanks for giving it to me Jenny! It's about cathedrals built during the Middle Ages- doesn't that make me sound smart? It's actually much more interesting than I make it sound and I am finally able to picture life in the Middle Ages. Somehow I don't think "A Knight's Tale" was totally accurate.

LOW- It's been raining a lot. I keep waiting to be overwhelmed by the "African summer heat" and it just hasn't happened. My family used to drive to Palm Springs in the middle of summer in an old Honda with no air- I'm ready for the heat! The sun finally made an appearance this past weekend which lifted my spirits. I would not survive in Washington or Alaska. With the rainy season has come more mosquitoes. I had secretly imagined that I had a superpower so mosquitos would never bite me. My dreams were shattered. Contrary to my theories, they do like my blood and had a feast before our house was sprayed. I felt one on my cheek in the dead of night and slapped my face and was left with dead mosquito on the cheek. Not cool.

HIGH- I went for an 8-mile run with Cecilia, Henrik's sister, on the weekend and in the middle of our run, it started to pour rain! We had no shelter and had about 3 more miles to finish so we squinted our eyes and enjoyed a refreshing shower early in the morning. After about 10 minutes of running through the storm, the clouds parted and the sun emerged and beat down on us for the remainder of the run. As we finished the run, I thought about how although I'm not a fan of rain, I do like how it makes everything green. Also, because of rainy days, I am much more appreciative for the sunny days and don't take them for granted. How true of the "storms" I weathered these past 2 weeks. I wasn't a fan of all the "lows" but I am thankful for the results- that the hard times pushed me closer to Jesus. It has also made me more appreciative of the mountaintop experiences and days when everything goes great. So I guess the rain and the trials are necessary although they might not be too pleasant. The sun will come out though- it always does. Right Shirly? (Ok so my cousin Kristen pointed out to me that the quote was from Annie not Shirly- I get all those smiling little girls confused)

One of my favorite Psalms is 119. I was reading it the other day and was filled with peace as I absorbed the Psalmist's words. I love some of the simple reminders of who our God is. Here are some of the verses that really struck me and encouraged me:

v. 32 "I run in the path of your commands, for you have set my heart free."

v. 36 "Turn my heart toward your statues and not toward selfish gain. Turn my eyes away from worthless things."

v. 45 "I walk about in freedom, for I have sought out your precepts."

v. 50 "My comfort in my suffering is this: your promise preserves my life."

v. 68 "You are good and what you do is good."

v. 71 "It was good for me to be afflicted so that I might learn your decrees."

v. 75 "I know, O LORD, that your laws are righteous and in faithfulness you have afflicted me. May your unfailing love be my comfort."

v. 109 "Though I constantly take my life in my hands, I will not forget your law."

v. 114 "You are my refuge and my shield. I have put my hope in your word."

v. 133 "Direct my footsteps according to your word; let no sin rule over me."

v. 151 "Yet you are near, O LORD, and all your commands are true."

v. 165 "Great peace have they who love your law, and nothing can make them stumble."

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Not Home Yet

As I crossed the border from South Africa into Mozambique, sweat poured down my face and trickled down my back (and let's be honest, into my crack as well- such a gross feeling), soaking my shirt and leaving me with large pit stains. Not due to nerves or hyper-active sweat glands, I was dripping because the Mozambican sun seems 20 degrees hotter than in South Africa. Pushed, shoved and jostled about in the customs line, I was tossed about in the sea of sweaty Africans and I inhaled the intense body odor like a sweet perfume." Ahhhhh....feels wonderful to be back!" I thought. (no sarcasm here) It still baffles me how I can feel so at home in and love two such radically different worlds. While I was at home in Brea I also thought, "Ahhhh....feels wonderful to be back!" (yes, apparently I think "ahhhhh" more often than most) Here are some highlights from my trip home.

I arrived home on Christmas Eve after thee longest trip ever and was exhausted. (partly due to travel and partly due to the fact that instead of sleeping on the plane rides,
I chose to watch movies and TV shows the entire time) Every Christmas Eve we open a new pair of pajamas and this year all the boys were decked out in their UPS uniforms. (see picture and please take note of my dad's super long toes. Unfortunately, these were hereditary) Our cousin Bennett arrived from Oregon just in time for the festivities and we all had a blast with him. Trent opened the game "Dance Dance Revolution" (also known as "dance dance O'Rama according to my mom) and while the boys played downstairs, I "rested my eyes" upstairs and was out cold. (man I miss that bed and that cat- is it a little creepy that my mom takes pictures of me sleeping?)I wonder if in heaven every morning will feel like Christmas morning. (or if we sleep at all for that matter) I still feel like a little kid, filled with excitement and anticipation when I awake because I love Christmas day so much. The Hardeman "kids" are ages 27, 25, and 23 yet we still all get excited about opening stockings:) I spent the entire day with my family and in my pajamas- does life get any better? I was a bit bummed that I had no gifts to give since my bags had still not yet arrived (I hate you Delta) but loved just being home and going through our family traditions. I love how Vander looks just as excited about his fire truck as he does about the little bear ornaments


Van was obviously the center of attention this Christmas and his joy and enthusiasm were contagious.


For the observant and bored, here's a game: can you find the subtle differences in each of the following 3 consecutive pictures?
One part of Christmas day that I always love is relaxing as a family after all the presents are opened. Can't remember what we were watching on the tube but I'm guessing a football game- even Jackson wanted to watch. (Heidi's dog)










The only sad part about this picture is that we're missing a very important member of our family: Emma!!! (Trav's fiance) Trent had been taking a nap and clearly was not excited about being woken up to take a picture- his expression is classic.My mom and I drove to LAX a few days after Christmas to search for my missing luggage because Delta had no idea where the bags were. We walked right in to the baggage claim and found them sitting in a corner! It was so fun to finally be the "gift giver" rather than just receiver. Did you notice Vander's injury from my nightmare babysitting experience? Luckily the fat lip went away a few days later, as did the mondo size gash above his lip.
One of my presents from Heidi was a ticket to see the musical Wicked so we had a "girls night out" and me, my mom and Heidi drove to LA and were awed by this amazing performance. (for those of you who don't know what "Wicked" is about, before you start judging us let me explain- it is the story of the witches from The Wizard of Oz before the whole "Dorothy and Todo" events.)Even Heidi loved it although she had never seen "The Wizard of Oz"- I know, who hasn't seen that movie? After we took the following picture, security yelled, "NO PICTURES!!!" whoops. At least they didn't make me erase the picture like they did at the Statue of Liberty. I took a picture of the "air puffer" which you had to walk through to check for bomb-making chemicals and blew your hair back. My iron well friends and I found it hilarious but when I took the picture, a very rude security woman came and took my camera and made me delete the picture so I couldn't give it to terrorists. I guess it makes sense but I hate the feeling of getting in trouble. Anyways, back to Wicked. The singing, costumes, sets, and story were all fabulous but the most memorable moment came at intermission when Heidi fell down the stairs and even the people around her couldn't help but laugh. (yes I notice my awkward arm placement in the picture)A few days after Christmas, Heidi, my mom and I went to Emma's bridal shower and had a blast. Her sisters were all in town and threw her an evening shower with AMAZING desserts. Not only was there a chocolate fountain, there was also a caramel fountain!!! I was in heaven! When they brought the cake around, I was still working on my 4Th plate of dessert but gladly accepted the cake as well. (no wonder I've had 5 root canals and a gazillion cavities) The shower was especially fun since I got to see a bunch of my aunts and cousins. Due to the traveling disasters, I missed the Christmas get-together with my extended family so it was perfect that I got to see all the females a few days later. I was thrilled in talking with my cousin Kristen who is planning on coming to visit the Iris Orphanage near my house in Mozambique! Emma was radiant as ever and it was so fun getting to talk to her sisters and family. She now has 5 sisters! I am so glad Trav picked a girl who fits so perfectly in our family and is such a joy to be around.












A few days following the shower, Emma, her mom and sisters, her nieces and her sisters-to-be (Heidi and I) picked out bridesmaid dresses. This process never gets old. I've acquired quite a collection now and each dress reminds me of how much I love and appreciate each friend. One of my favorite games is picking out the most horrendous dresses possible. Here we are at the shop. Emma's nieces are absolutely adorable and were so much fun to play with. Yes, I prefer playing with kids than trying on clothes.

While home, of course I saw plenty of basketball. We watched the boys play at Azusa and the highlight may have been when Vander walked to center court at half time, sat down, and started bobbing and swaying to the music. (continue to pray that he got his dad's rthymn) Then when Heidi and I went to watch the Azusa girls, we had another memorable Vander moment but not so sweet. It's tough to explain but basically Vander (while fully supervised by Heidi and myself) ended up hanging upside down by one foot from the bleachers! Heidi and I were at an awkward angle to grab him but a man was standing right underneath him just facing the other way. To get his attention I screamed like I used to when in "help side defense" " HELP! HELP! HELP!" Apparently my panicked and loud scream got my dad's attention and he turned from the bench where he was coaching and ran towards Vander. The man had grabbed the poor guy by the time my dad reached the scene (which was in like 1.6 seconds- he's still got quite the reflexes!) but since the coach suddenly ran to the bleachers, thee ENTIRE gym looked over and saw Van hanging precariously from the bleachers. Towards the end of my stay, we returned to APU to watch the Azusa girls play again. This time I was accompanied by my friend Gregg and the ever-hilarious Butlers. Katie is one of the wittiest people I know and she married a man just as witty so I love every chance I have to hang out with them. Unfortunately, I forgot to bring my camera to the game but saw the following picture on Azusa's website. Do you see Katie, Cameron, Gregg and myself? My final basketball outing was when Stefanie and I went to a Laker game! She gave me tickets for Christmas and we had a blast although we didn't pay super close attention to the game. (note to self: stop saying "blast") I think we both were more excited about the food and the environment than the actual game. We had one very blonde moment which I suppose I should take the blame for. To get to our seats we had to take an elevator so I pushed the button (apparently not hard enough) and then we proceeded to wait for the elevator. We waited for about 5 minutes and a crowd began to form waiting for the elevator. One guy then walked past us and hit the button and the doors immediately opened! The waiting girls laughed with us while the men shook their heads in annoyance.

I'm quite the homebody so I really enjoyed just being at home and eating and talking with the fam. In the picture to the left Heidi and I both acquired sore throats and were drinking nasty, medicated tea while sitting on the kitchen floor. Can't quite remember why we chose to sit there. I would like to say that I knew my mom was taking the picture and chose to make the ugly face but no, that is a genuine, candid ugly face I am giving to Jackson. In the picture to the right you will a witness a nearly weekly tradition at the Hardeman household: Taco feast! Unlike most people, we use pork and beans instead of refried and it makes a huge difference. I missed these tacos so much! Apparently Emma's taco was telling her a joke.During my trip, I went to the movies more often than many probably go during an entire year and saw some winners and some losers. (referring to movies, not people) Some memorable moments include:
* going to see The Great Debaters with Gregg and my brothers and being the only people in the theater except for 2 other people. During the love scene Trav ripped one so loud the other people couldn't stop laughing as well.

* moving-hopping with Stefanie.

* Being thee only people in the theater with Emma, Heidi and my mom when watching Enchanted until a herd of 12 year old girls joined us.
* going to see I Am Legend with Gregg so we could spy on Trent and accidentally spying on Trent's clone instead.
(this guy seriously looked exactly like Trent)
Along with seeing movies, another favorite activity of mine is having game nights.
We played Dance Dance Revolution and Wii games so much that I actually got sore! Megan introduced us to my new favorite game which involves charades, memory, and taboo strategies. We played this game until the wee hours of the morning (I've always wanted to say that) and the most memorable moment was when Sarah was trying to describe Pontias Pilate and thought he must have invented pilates and pronounced his name "pont-e-ous pe-laut-ees." In her defense, his name is spelled strange.

While I was home, of course I stuffed my face with every favorite dish imaginable. There just weren't enough days to taste everything though. I did get to partake in Frescas 99 cent Chicken Taco Tuesdays and thoroughly enjoyed every bite. I forced myself to eat donuts although I was never hungry for them but I knew I would crave them again when in Africa and I ate more candy than Willie Wonka.
I spent as much time as possible hanging out with my adorable little nephew. When he wasn't busting open his lip or hanging from bleachers, we had some fun times. I went with him and Heidi to his Gymboree class and had a blast (need a synonym for this word!) watching him play with all the toys and other kids. The teacher of the class reminded me of a human version of Barney so I was a little freaked out by him but Vander seemed to enjoy himself. The first picture I've entitled "Lady in Red." get it? The second picture is called, "big chicken" and the third picture is "cell phone junkie." It's so cute how he knows how to hold on to a phone. (even funnier is the fact that a few days ago he threw Heidi's I-phone into the toilet!)

How stinking cute is this guy??? Unfortunately it appears that he may have inherited the infamous Hardeman toes. My mom would have freaked out if she had been home when Dan was "playing" with Vander by tossing him in the air! He loved it though and it is so fun to watch Dan and Van together- they're constantly giggling.



















I'm writing this entry from Mozambique, still pondering how both worlds feel like home to me although they are so different. As I thought about where "home" is, God reminded me that although I do have homes here on earth and am immensly blessed, I shouldn't get too comfortable and cannot forget where my true home is. I wish that I had the perspective every moment of every day that I my time here on earth should be lived as a "stranger" since my true home is in heaven. There are times in Mozambique and in California when I feel a longing- not to be in another country but for something better- something that earth cannot offer. I wish I had this longing for heaven all the time but I confess I often forget about my true home and get so consumed with my life here on earth. My prayer is that I would constantly be looking toward heaven, longing for it, and treat my time on earth as it is: temporary. One of my favorite passages is Hebrews 11:13-16 when the author is discussing the hall of famers for faith:

"All these people were still living by faith when they died. They did not receive the things promised; they only saw them and welcomed them from a distance. And they admitted that they were aliens and strangers on earth. People who say such things show that they are looking for a country of their own. If they had been thinking of the country they had left, they would have had opportunity to reture. Instead, they were longing for a better country- a heavenly one. Therefore God is not ashamed to be called their God, for he has prepared a city for them."

Before playing basketball games at Westmont, I would always listen to my "pump up" music which included Steven Curtis Chapman. Yes, I'm old school and got teased plenty for it. I would often listen to the following song, "Not Home Yet" to calm me down so I wouldn't freak out about playing bad. When I remember that while I'm on earth, I am not truly home yet, the problems of this world seem much smaller. Please pray that I would daily be reminded that I am NOT HOME YET!!!



To all the travelers
Pilgrims longing for a home
From one who walks with you
On this journey called life's road
It is a long and winding road

From one who's seen the view
And dreamt of staying on the mountains high
And one who's cried like you
Wanting so much just to lay down and die
I offer this, we must remember this

We are not home yet
We are not home yet
Keep on looking ahead
Let your heart not forget
We are not home yet
Not home yet

So close your eyes with me
And hear the Father saying, "welcome home"
Let us find the strength
In all His promises to carry on
He said, "I go prepare a place for you"
So let us not forget

We are not home yet
We are not home yet
Keep on looking ahead
Let your heart not forget
We are not home yet
We are not home yet
Keep on looking ahead
Let your heart not forget
We are not home yet

I know there'll be a moment
I know there'll be a place
Where we will see our Saviour
And fall in His embrace
So let us not grow weary
Or too content to stay
'Cause we are not home yet
We are not home yet
Not home yet
So let us journey on

We are not home yet
We are not home yet
Keep on looking ahead
Let your heart not forget
We are not home yet
Not home yet